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Tuesday, April 26, 2005

On Being a Mother

This was passed along to me and I thought I would share. I hope you enjoy.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to
take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She
said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves
you and would love to spend some time with you." The
other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my
MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the
demands of my work and my three children had made it
possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, are you not well?" she asked.
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that
a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign
of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some
time with you," I responded "just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick
her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her
house, I noticed that she too, seemed to be nervous about our date.
She waited in the door with her coat on. She had
curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she
had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with
my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she
got into the car, "they can't wait to hear about our meeting."
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.

My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat
down, I had to read the menu.
Her eyes could only read large print. Half way
through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom
sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was
on her lips."It was I who used to have to read the menu when
you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return
the favor," I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable
conversation.... nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent
events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed
the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she
said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite
you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I
got home.
"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,"
I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive
heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have
a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I
received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the
same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note
said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure
that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for
two plates - one for you and the other for your
wife. You will never know what that night meant for
me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of
saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved
ones the TIME that they deserve. Nothing in life is
more important than your FAMILY. Give them the time
they deserve, because these
things cannot be put off until "some other time."

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get
back to normal after you've had a baby ... somebody
doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by
instinct ... somebody never took a three-year-old

Somebody said being a mother is boring .. somebody
never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a
driver's permit.

Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your
child will "turn out good".

Somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their
voices ... somebody never came out the back door
just in time to see her child hit a golf ball
through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a
mother.... somebody never helped a fourth grader
with his math.

Somebody said you can't love the second child as
much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't
have two children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers
to her child-rearing questions in the books..
somebody never had a
child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother
is labor and delivery somebody never watched her
"baby" get on the bus for the first day of
kindergarten ... or on a plane headed
for military boot camp.

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her
eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ...
somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to
sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after
her child gets married...somebody doesn't know that
marriage adds a new "son" or "daughter" to a
mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her
last child leaves home....somebody never had

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so
you don't need to tell her.... somebody isn't a


At 7:56 PM, Blogger JohnH985 said...

This post hit home, my father is getting sick. Everytime he goes to the doctor lately his blood pressure is dropping and he is tired. Type of thing you don't want to think about...

At 9:12 PM, Blogger James Goodman said...

I am sorry to hear that. I lost my grandfather(who I probably spent more time with than my father when I was younger)nearly six years ago and I still think about him almost every day.

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